A friend of ours came to us for help recently. He was really struggling with circumstances and loneliness. He said, “I feel like I’m flying a plane and flying in circles because I just need a co-pilot.” He felt like there was a hole in his life that only a wife could fill and he was confused why God would allow him to struggle so much when he had worked so hard to live rightly. I couldn’t help but think of the words of so many Psalms that wonder why the wicked prosper while the righteous suffer. There was something else going on though as well. When we “play by the rules,” we can start to think God owes us something. I still remember the words of Cru president, Steve Douglass, during our New Staff Training 12 years ago: “What we deserve is Hell. Anything else is sheer grace.” We explained that God doesn’t promise an easy life, but promises to be with us during the hard times.
Then, we took our friend through the “Satisfied!” booklet which walks through 1 Corinthians 2:14-16 and 3:1-2 along with other passages to explain the Holy Spirit’s role in our lives. He is our true source of satisfaction, and my friend realized that trying to fill that need with anything or anyone else would only end up in more hurt. He asked the Lord to take the throne of his life and fill him with the Holy Spirit. He came back to the airplane analogy and said, “I shouldn’t be in the pilot seat. God’s the pilot and I’m a passenger.” As he is filled to overflowing by God, I believe he will have more to give to a wife someday as well.